It is always difficult to put yourself out there. It is like leaving yourself vulnerable to some sort of hurt.
Every single time that i have done that, i have been scared. But sometimes i have been thankful that i did it.
What do i really mean when i say "putting myself out there"?
When i told him that i loved him, though i doubted that his concern might just be friendship.
When i fought with my boss trying to tell him that i am not happy with work he gave me and was ready to quit if he couldn't find anything better for me to do.
When i opened my bookclub and called the first meetup, i was half sick to death that no one will turn up.
Heck! everytime i throw a get together at my place and i worry that all my prep will go wasted.
So i think "putting yourself out there" means to be the person who has everything to lose and everything to gain by the outcome of the action. To be in a situation where there is more than 50% chance of failure.
Has it never rebounded? Oh it has! a lot of times. I have cried, i have sobbed, but luckily i have always had a friend to get through it :)
Have i never backed out of such an action? oh i have a number of times!
But i really think that i will always always cherish the times it worked, such is the positive aura around these few instances that it never ceases to brighten me up.
When i look back, to all such times, whether i failed or not, i at least would not wonder "What if..?"
And really isn't regret the worst thing to have at the end of our long career in life?
Live and live dangerously :). Live as if there is nothing to lose when there is everything to lose and put your faith in the one person who will stand by you, no matter what..
Toodles..
Every single time that i have done that, i have been scared. But sometimes i have been thankful that i did it.
What do i really mean when i say "putting myself out there"?
When i told him that i loved him, though i doubted that his concern might just be friendship.
When i fought with my boss trying to tell him that i am not happy with work he gave me and was ready to quit if he couldn't find anything better for me to do.
When i opened my bookclub and called the first meetup, i was half sick to death that no one will turn up.
Heck! everytime i throw a get together at my place and i worry that all my prep will go wasted.
So i think "putting yourself out there" means to be the person who has everything to lose and everything to gain by the outcome of the action. To be in a situation where there is more than 50% chance of failure.
Has it never rebounded? Oh it has! a lot of times. I have cried, i have sobbed, but luckily i have always had a friend to get through it :)
Have i never backed out of such an action? oh i have a number of times!
But i really think that i will always always cherish the times it worked, such is the positive aura around these few instances that it never ceases to brighten me up.
When i look back, to all such times, whether i failed or not, i at least would not wonder "What if..?"
And really isn't regret the worst thing to have at the end of our long career in life?
Live and live dangerously :). Live as if there is nothing to lose when there is everything to lose and put your faith in the one person who will stand by you, no matter what..
Toodles..
I so agree that if you don't try you will regret not having done so. I put myself out there a number of times, with varying results. In a way the result doesn't matter because you can pat yourself on the back for being true to yourself and following your heart :)
ReplyDeleteAnd btw you should congratulate yourself that I find your blog addictive enough to read it while I am in South America ;)
ReplyDelete:) if not for the bookclub, i would not have you as my friend: "But i really think that i will always always cherish the times it worked, such is the positive aura around these few instances that it never ceases to brighten me up."
DeleteBTW how is Brazil?